Coping with Grief and Loss
Anyone who has experienced grief or loss knows how overwhelming it can be. Sometimes it feels as if you’ll never feel any differently. Our thoughts revolve around the loss we have suffered, our emotions can be fierce and take us by surprise, and we may feel that life will never be the same again.
This is a normal response to the loss of a loved one or to events that mean we are forever changed. It is normal to grieve for loss. It is normal to grieve for loved ones who are no longer with us. And it is normal to feel we cannot cope. I remember being unable to make a cup of tea when I was grieving – sure, I could boil the kettle and put a teabag in my cup, but I simply lost track of time repeatedly, so the kettle would have gone cold by the time I remembered to put water in my cup, or the tea would have stewed and gone cold by the time I remembered to fish out the teabag. I’d leave windows and doors open when I went out to work or to the shops. All of this is normal in the first few months of grief.
Grief and loss take a lot of processing. We have to come to terms with a different reality to the one we were used to. And this is something that hypnotherapy can help with – taking the baby steps that help us to readjust and find a new normal, a new way of living. It’s not about forgetting, but it is about processing – processing our emotions, processing our loss, processing the impact on our lives. It’s also about creating – creating our new reality, creating new habits and routines, creating a new life that works around our loss and smooths the sharp edges of our grief.
I’m not sure that there is necessarily a timeline for grief. We all grieve in different ways, and some of us move through the process relatively quickly. There isn’t a right or wrong with this. It isn’t that you “shouldn’t feel like this”.
However, if you don’t want to feel the way you do, hypnotherapy can gently help you to move through this process at a pace that is right for you. If you’d like help with coming to terms with your loss, why not ring me for a free chat to find out how I can help?